Learning to Love Stupid People
My sister recently commented that she’d noticed I wasn’t posting political stuff to Facebook anymore. This is a big deal, as it’s a big part of “who I am” on Facebook and it’s created some notoriety for me in certain social circles.
I pride myself on having the discipline of analyzing my words and actions occasionally to evaluate if they represent how I want to be seen by others. When I find something I don’t like, I start reading and thinking. As I went through this self-examination a few months ago, I came to the conclusion that I needed to focus on maintaining good relationships and not being right…
I’m done throwing my feces
Most of the debate that takes place during an election cycle really does nothing to help people make informed decisions. It’s hyperbolic, and typically drives people towards a more partisan attitude on many issues, to the benefit of no-one, other than the parties themselves.
I have found that the most informative, helpful discussions take place in small groups of people, not Facebook.
Discussing politics on Facebook is the equivalent of monkeys throwing shit at each other — It’s entertaining, but messy and pointless.
I’m learning to love “stupid” people
I should start by saying that I don’t think of myself as some genius with all the answers — I am successful at my job because I learned that I don’t have all the answers, and I’ve surrounded myself by people who are smarter, and more talented than me.
I do know that I am intelligent, and I think deeply about important issues, and always try to develop an informed, well thought out position on these issues. When I see someone making a knee-jerk, or blatantly ignorant statement my BS meter tends to explode, which causes me to distance myself from these “stupid” people to avoid confrontation.
Recently, a friend of mine sent me a link to an interesting discussion on Quora titled “How do I get over my low tolerance for stupid people?” — he laughingly suggested that this discussion seemed like something I’d enjoy participating in.
As I read the list, I read a comment that shattered my perception of these “stupid” people, and cut me to the quick:
This answer gave me a new perspective, and I’m trying to make it apart of “who I am” on Facebook.
It doesn’t mean that I’ll never talk politics, we have some very important issues facing our country, and they warrant thoughtful discussion — but next time I hear you say, “Obama is a Muslim” or something equally stupid, I won’t immediately run to my voodoo doll collection to burn your effigy… Instead, I’ll take a deep breath, and post a cute kitten picture on your Facebook wall.